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Goddessing on a Budget: Trauma-Sensitive Considerations for Daily Rituals

In my first post related to daily rituals, I examined the benefits of personal ceremony and explored suggestions for ritual styles. Today I’ll be focusing more specifically on trauma-sensitive topics related to frugal daily rituals, including how to concentrate your energy during ritual as well as options for short meditations during more challenging situations.


Staying Present During Daily Ritual Practice

Establishing focus during ritual can be quite a task when external or internal distractions present themselves. Depending on your individual situation, finding a quiet time and space may require sustained effort. Do what you can to manage distractions that are under your control, such as keeping electronic devices away from your sacred space.

For those interruptions that are outside of your control, sinking into Goddess’ presence and reminding yourself of Her grace in all situations may help you concentrate. If you have young children who tend to get most interested in what you are doing the moment you’re busy, try to schedule ritual times when they are asleep or include them in parts of your practice. They will likely enjoy the “music and dancing” time!

Distractions can “cloud” our intentions during ritual.

Sources of internal interference during ritual may include thoughts of the past or future, as well as physiological issues such as pain or headaches. I like to think of my internal processes as messages. These messages matter and should not be ignored, but they also do not necessarily mean I need to immediately drop everything to “read” them.

If I feel physical discomfort during a ritual, I check in with myself and note whether shifting positions or coming back to the particular part of the ritual a few minutes later might work better. If an issue keeps entering my mind during a ritual, I discern whether or not it is rising from my inner work in the moment or from an anxious part of myself. If I feel like it is based on anxiety and can be handled later, I thank that part of myself who’s letting me know it’s important, and affirm that I will address it at a more appropriate time.


Minute Meditations for Difficult Times

We all have “one of those days” where everything seems to go wrong or we feel bombarded by stressors. We might find it impossible to settle ourselves for an extended meditative experience and may feel disconnected from Goddess. Instead of engaging in self-blame, give yourself permission to modify your practice in ways that feel comfortable to you. In these moments, I find taking just a minute or two with Spirit often changes my perspective and emotional state. These micro-meditations cost very little and are also a good match for times where you need to release energy after a tough encounter.


1. Sensory Activation

Using our senses connects us both to Spirit and to ourselves:

  • Smell—keep a variety of scents nearby to bring yourself back to reality when you feel stressed. A few I use to help me ground are lemon, clove, sandalwood and sage.
  • Touch—use self or partner massage on tense areas like your shoulders. A weighted or soft blanket may feel soothing. A ritual bath for your hands or feet can incorporate many of your senses, including touch. Petting an animal releases the “cuddle” hormone oxytocin.
  • Vision—gaze at your personal altar to reconnect yourself to the Sacred. Spend some time in nature, noticing as many individual plants, animals and natural formations as you can. Participate in a Goddess meditation.
  • Hearing—listen to your favorite music. Chants can help to release some energy, whereas instrumental music may help to calm the body’s rhythms. Read poetry aloud.
  • Taste—I will be sharing a blog in a few weeks about taste with a particular emphasis on cooking as a medium for sacred practice. Taking a moment to savor a favorite flavor mindfully may recharge your soul.

2. Centering Chant

A centering chant can be sung aloud or in your head to help you return to self and ground. You can create your own chant or use one of many Goddess-focused chants. Chants typically include simple lyrics and repetitive sound, giving them a mantra-like quality.

As someone who incorporates Buddhist and Hindu thought into my practice, I also enjoy humming the cadence of the chakra that I needing the most alignment in a particular moment. Meditative Mind has published free versions of many chakra activation chants on Youtube. Each chakra has a different corresponding sound:

  • Root—Lam
  • Sacral—Vam
  • Solar Plexus—Ram
  • Heart—Yam
  • Throat—Ham
  • Third Eye—Om
  • Crown—Ah


3. Counting the Breath

I’ll never forget the moment I was feeling highly anxious and the person I was with stared me down, stating “take a deep breath.” I’m pretty sure I held my breath just out of spite! Deep breathing can engage the relaxation response, but it can also increase anxiety if it is used at the wrong moment or as a way to try to stifle emotion.

I have found counting breaths to be more useful. A meditation teacher of mine remarked on finding the space between the out-breath and the in-breath. I tended to breathe so quickly I couldn’t follow her logic. Years later, I downloaded a free app called Prana Breath that specifies a set number of seconds for the breath in, pausing, breath out, and then waiting before starting again. I finally found the pause!

4. One-Card Tarot or Oracle

Meditating on a tarot card or oracle can allow your mind to see a situation in a new light. A few questions you might ask Goddess before intuitively choosing a card include:

  • What do I need right now?
  • What am I missing in my current view of this situation?
  • What strength in myself could help me cope?

Most cards include gorgeous imagery along with words or descriptions. Take time to really explore the image and see what arises in your heart as you do so. I am often amazed at how many uplifting details artists are able to incorporate when I really study their work!

My Inner Tree Oracle deck from GabyGCreations.

Intuitive cards are a commodity where I can get into splurging. I now invest in one deck at a time, purchased from Esty artists. This allows me to really take my time to get to know each card and evaluate how I respond to it in my inner work. Being able to communicate with the person who created the deck is an extra perk.

Goddessing Through Daily Ritual Takes Practice

On the whole, the personalization for which daily rituals allow means that they can be modified to provide a safe place for individuals who have a trauma history. Accessing simple, structured meditations when we are too overwhelmed for a full ritual gives us security in Goddess’ presence moment to moment. Pacing ourselves through obstacles that might hinder our practice emboldens our experience of positive spiritual progress and direction. Next week I will expand our palate of Goddessing on a Budget by digging into the ways in which deep connections nourish us on our spiritual journey.

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Goddessing on a Budget: Practical Tips for Daily Rituals

This is the first of two blogs on how to goddess on a budget using daily rituals. We’ll be exploring the positive effects of daily rituals, as well as different forms of ritual. In this post, I’m restricting my focus regarding ritual to those experiences that can be undertaken as part of a solitary practice on a regular basis. I think this is a safe place to start for many trauma survivors and offers the added advantage of allowing for personal tailoring to suit your style.

Benefits of Daily Rituals

Rituals, even simple ones, can have powerful effects. Whether or not you ascribe to a magical viewpoint that hones in on the shift in energy they can bring, taking time each day for ritual sets you up for positive emotions and experiences. There is limited research suggesting partaking in rituals can be healing for individuals with PTSD.

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A note of caution—any ritual you are conducting related to your trauma history should be developed in collaboration with a mental health practitioner and a spiritual guide, and you need to be supported in processing your experience. The focus here is on daily rituals anyone can do to maintain their spiritual practice, not on rituals specifically related to healing from trauma.

5 Components to Build Your Daily Ritual Style

As you peruse the list below, I suggest thinking of the spiritual activities you both enjoy and that you realistically can make time for consistently. Next, determine the time of day when you tend to be both calm and alert. Take into consideration creative cost-saving adaptations to your plans. Lastly, make sure that you are tapping into multiple senses in your daily rituals to increase their impact.

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For me, I finally began to follow through practicing personal ceremony when I let go of any predefined ways of how it was supposed to look and when it was to occur. I found it easier to start with an evening ritual and eventually built in a morning version. You get to decide where, when and what you want to do!

1. Personal Altar

There is definitely such a thing as spiritual bling! Once you make the decision to have a personal altar, it is very easy to get carried away and perhaps overload both your table and your budget.

“It’s not hoarding if it’s crystals!”

I change my main altar four times a year, with each solstice and equinox. Instead of encouraging impulse buys, this pattern gives me permission to purchase a few new items every few months.

If you ascribe to a particular religious or Pagan tradition, there may be a pre-determined altar layout system that you can choose to follow. Because I am a Solitary Practitioner of eclectic Goddess spirituality, my altar reflects some traditional elements and a lot of my own preferences.  An inexpensive purchase that has yielded a lot of possibilities for me has been to buy tiny bottles.  I filled them with ash, dirt, water and a feather to represent the four elements, placing them around the main Goddess figurine on my altar.

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Contemplate including only those items which feel “safe” and uplifting on your altar. Some of the Tarot cards and even stones I’ve bought are challenging to me. I work with them, but I keep my main altar as a sacred place to which I can return no matter my current emotional state.

Survivors may find themselves in an environment that rejects visual displays of faith. In this situation, items like pocket altars or nature “decorations” might provide a touchstone. Perhaps a mini altar in your car or office drawer could bring Goddess into your life in a safe way.

2. Mindfulness

Mindfulness meditation involves present-moment awareness. It can be a sitting meditation or it can include ordinary tasks like eating and walking. Mindfulness has the potential to be a double-edged sword for individuals with trauma. It can be incredibly healing as it contradicts dissociation, but it has the potential to escalate anxiety and other issues if used without support or in situations where those leading the practice are not sensitive to survivors’ needs.

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If you are new to mindfulness, exercise caution and work with your mental health professional as you explore various teachers, traditions and exercises. Personally, I enjoy many of Tara Brach’s teachings and meditations. If and when you find a mindful meditation technique that fits you, consider incorporating it into your daily ritual either before divination/inner work to center yourself, or as a way to return to your surroundings after your intuitive time.

3. Yoga

Yoga comes with many of the same caveats as mindfulness. It can be an amazing way to connect with Goddess through your body and through movement, and it can also activate traumatic memories. Some yoga teachers take extra classes on trauma-sensitive methods, so think about asking whether or not your potential instructor has done this if you are joining a new class. I think it is worth investing in at least a few classes if you have never tried it in order to get feedback on your poses, but it can also be done at home. I sometimes include Mountain and Tree Pose as a grounding part of my daily ritual.

Tree Pose
Tree Pose can be very grounding.

4. Inner Work

Inner work is typically incorporated in the middle of a daily ritual. It might include:

  • Reading Tarot, oracle cards or runes
  • Journaling
  • Moon intentions and workings
  • Artistic endeavors
  • Conversing with Goddess (speaking and/or listening)
  • Creating crystal grids
  • Fashioning flower mandalas
  • Balancing chakras
  • Reiki
  • Conducting formal ritual to celebrate a holiday or occasion.


A personal outcome may directly evident as a result of your day’s inner work, or, more likely, it may take time for the messages and intentions to manifest. Give yourself permission to find the inner working methods which speak to you the most. Inner work might benefit from a few supplies, but you can also save money with projects like drawing runes on stones or branches or creating chakra charts to learn more about your personal energy.

5. Movement and Music

Goddess Spirituality can include raising energy as a key part of daily ritual. You get to be loud! For me, this is an area of both opportunity and challenge, and one where I like being a Solitary Practitioner. I do not care to subject others to my dancing and singing! The joy and playfulness that movement set to music offers are free and add dimension to your experiences. Find or create your own instruments and songs. I’ve turned casting my circle into a rhythm that I sing every time I start and end my ritual.

Goddessing Each Moment

Today I’ve shared about some motivational reasons to engage in daily rituals, as well as several tips for finding your own way of goddessing. I believe a huge part of healing work is learning to give ourselves grace and freedom to tailor at least our space and personal time to our own preferences. In this way, daily rituals can become a celebration if you open yourself up to learning about those things that affirm and speak to you on an individual level.

My next post will be aimed more directly at the trauma-related issues that can arise during personal rituals, and will provide suggestions for handling these issues.

Naturally Mindful

Goddessing On a Budget: Nature

Imagine a place with free smells, tastes, textures, sights, and sounds. No need to wait in line. No need to buy a ticket. Any seat in the house is yours for the taking. This place is closer than you think, in fact, it might be just outside your front door!

Spending time outside can give us a mental boost and expands our relationship with Goddess. Attuning to our own needs allows us to minimize triggers as we search for Her in nature. Finally, even if we have difficulty directly accessing natural settings, we can bring the outdoors inside and cultivate a lush mental landscape.

Benefits of Goddess-Spirituality in Nature for Trauma Survivors

I am not aware of a lot of data directly measuring the correlation between spending time outside as a Goddess-spiritual practice and recovery from trauma, but those who serve trauma survivors have investigated the improvements in well-being that occur with “nature-assisted therapy.” For most people, spending time outside would indirectly boost their amount of exercise as it requires walking and other physical activity. People who develop PTSD tend to decrease how much they exercise, but there are positive outcomes specifically associated with exercise that occurs in an outdoor setting. Ultimately, it is up to you to discover the ways in which taking your experience of Goddess outside, perhaps with a daily walk included, impacts you.

Spiritual Connections to Goddess in Nature

I’m currently reading Earth’s Path by Starhawk. In her book, she lays out an incredible array of techniques by which we can connect spiritually with nature. One practice her book mentions several times is keeping an eye out for the borders that occur in nature. For example, where the river meets the riverbed or grass meets a wooded area. She notes that a lot of energy and action can be found at these transition points. I’ve observed that many animals tend to hang around these points, like the chipmunks and the skunk who love the area between my house and the bushes! Changes and transitions are so much a part of what it means to be a woman embodied in this world, and I think we honor that when we honor the transformation moments and spaces in nature.

Another resource I turn to time and again is Molly Remer’s blog entitled Brigid’s Grove. She recently described a practice adapted from The Art of Doing Nothing that involves watching a sunset with awareness. This is awareness of the fact that we are actually the ones who are moving relative to the sun. This leads me to think about my relationship with nature as it represents Goddess. How many times do I react to rainy weather with grumbling, instead of marveling that the sun still shines above the clouds? Awareness of Goddess in nature lets me see more of the panoramic view that surrounds me every day.

I’m not shy about talking to Goddess in nature. I bring my dog with me most places I go outside, so I “tell” him the various things we are experiencing and observing. One benefit of growing a little older is that I care less about what people think of me, and they can call me a “tree-hugger” all day long if it means I get to witness the power flowing through a stately oak’s boughs and branches. My main communication is that of gratitude. With my experience of nature being no longer a pretty thing to look at, but instead a direct incarnation of Her Being, Beauty and Grace, I cannot help but feel humbled and astonished by all that surrounds me. Traumatic experiences can leave us feeling robbed of so much life and hope. I feel restored and enriched by Her creative expression of Herself.

Staying Grounded While Exploring Nature

Individuals who have faced trauma deal with their share of triggers, which are stimuli that can cause negative emotional reactions and even flashbacks. Personally, I do not enjoy being outside in hot weather, especially when there is humidity. I find this experience to be aggravating and capable of producing “insta-rage” in me. I also know that I tend to get overwhelmed when there are a lot of people or too much noise. A sidewalk with one lonely tree in the middle of a crowded city street in 90-degree weather is still full of Goddess energy, but I am unlikely to be able to access it. Knowing myself allows me to be selective in the times and places where I seek to really dig in and open up my heart. Shade, space and lots of green are much more grounding and calming to me.

A tip I have found to ground myself outside in general, especially when I am being triggered by people, is to look for what is growing, flying or scurrying around me. Seeing the parts of nature that aren’t human-centered helps me to expand my viewpoint beyond the one measly being whom I find upsetting. The sky can be a conduit for this as well; realizing the vastness of space above me, surrounded by and filled with Goddess, allows me to feel more secure.

Accessibility for Those With Special Needs

For some individuals, physical or mental differences may place activities like hiking out of reach at times. If you find yourself in this situation, there are still plenty of ways to affordably connect with nature. If you are located in a place with nature scenes outside, make it part of your daily habit to sit somewhere that offers an outdoor view. Adding just a few flowers, seashells or pine cones to your home décor may give you a reminder of Goddess as she presents Herself in nature.

Mental imagery is also an excellent tool in this situation. Choose a particular natural setting that appeals to you the most. Then, spend 5-10 minutes visualizing what you would see if you were there right now. What tastes or smells would be there? Are there particular textures, changes in temperature, or air movements that you can sense? What sounds would you hear if you were there right now? If you feel comfortable, listen to what Goddess wants to share with you in this moment.

Goddess in Nature, Goddess as Nature

By now, you’ve hopefully planned out a few spots in nature you can visit over the next week or two, even if it is just a mental journey. Rather than stuffing in as much as possible in one sitting, spend several minutes in the same area and note all of the sensory experiences it provides. Marvel at how rich your experience is, even though it costs little to nothing. Feel free to share your observations!

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What is Goddessing?

This is a working definition! I see goddessing as a daily practice of embracing and embodying the Divine Feminine in everyday life. Certainly, it starts with learning about and worshipping Goddess, but it then moves to incorporating Her presence moment-to-moment. It is a pathway open to all.

Keep in mind that there isn’t a sense of “not enough” implied in goddessing. There is an immediacy and a holding found in this practice. The purpose is not to slough off one’s mortal being and transform into a detached, disinterested calm person. Instead, She meets us where we are, as we are, in all our humanness. She revels in our ordinariness.

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Goddessing On a Budget

Being cash-savvy may seem like an odd pairing with spirituality, but taking care of one’s well-being can include a focus on healthy finances. Far too often have I found myself falling down the rabbit-hole of “I must have this item. It will help me be so much more spiritual. Who cares if I can’t eat for a week.”  The search for meaning and hope can leave us enticed into many purchases whose true spiritual currency is negligible.

Goddessing Frugally

The good news is that Goddess offers Herself to us in so many avenues, most of which do not require a large investment of money. These can include:

Check back each week as I explore one of these ways to build your spiritual practice without breaking the bank!